How to remove yourself from a toxic relationship when you’re in love

It’s normal for relationships to experience their ups and downs, but sometimes you can be in love with the wrong person and it’s better to let them go then to let the relationship get worse, excusing your unhappiness as the result of the ‘love is blind’ cliché.

Here’s how to leave a toxic relationship despite having strong feelings for your partner.

1. You are better than you think:
Making self-affirmations are important when considering to leave your partner because you must realize that loving yourself is just as important—if not more important—than wanting or expecting others to love you.

2. Letting go:
Sometimes letting go is easier said than done but it’s important to move forward when removing yourself from your past. To do this, try starting a new hobby, organizing family gatherings, or simply exercising to keep yourself busy and to occupy your mind from attaching your thoughts to your partner.

3.You can’t expect your partner to change:
While you can make changes to your own life, you can’t expect or force your partner to change into the person you want him or her to be. Change must come from within, it can’t be forced. Even though we want a relationship to work out, sometimes they are unfixable.

4. Pain is expected:
Coming to the realization that heartbreak is painful will help you to avoid running away from the pain. When you try to supress a painful situation from surfacing, your feelings will most likely surface in the future.

5. Cry it out:
Just as running away from the pain associated with heartbreak will do you no good, avoiding tearful moments will postpone the healing process. If you feel like crying, let yourself be sad to become stronger in the long run.

6. Make yourself happy:
Many couples associate happiness with their significant other. However, when you’re trying to remove yourself from a toxic relationship, it’s beneficial to note that you control your own happiness. Spend time with people who have a positive impact on your life and you’ll surely overcome moments of unhappiness that are in your control to change.